6. Don’t be scared to show your independence When dating a guy, sure, they look for a girlfriend but they’re not looking for someone to take care of. So, don’t be afraid to show him you have your own life. They don’t want to be with someone who gives up everything for them, in their mind, this shows a stage five clinger. Take it slow, and show him you appreciate space. [Read: How to be a strong independent woman that men love]